In Greek mythology, there’s a god that’s in charge of desire, erotic love, attraction and affection. His name is Cupid; often referred to as the son of Venus – the goddess of love. He oftentimes uses his weapon of the bow and arrow to strike other beings so they feel either uncontrollable desire for something else or the desire to flee. It is said that if he strikes two beings with a single gold arrow, they will fall madly in love (or the exact opposite if using a lead arrow).
But what if he misses and only strikes one?
One will fall in love while the other will not – causing the epitome of the phrase: unrequited love. It is as if the wolf is in love with the moon and cries for a love that it will never touch. Or like a stack of domino tiles carefully placed with the first tile falls for one but they fall for another. It’s the loneliness of being in love with someone completely and without reserve but also knowing that you are not loved that way in return.
So I can ignore him, pretend he doesn’t exist, but I pray to God that He knows what He is doing and that we aren’t supposed to end up like this. I guess I’m still holding on to something that I know will probably never happen, because somewhere deep down inside me, there’s a piece of hope that someday, it will.
People say that the person you marry should be your best friend. They should be the person you tell everything to, the person who will be there for you no matter what stage you are in life, the person who appreciates your strengths but will compliment your weaknesses as well. The person who doesn’t judge you for what your decisions were in the past, but helps hold your hand when you’re going through tough times in the present. When someone that amazing turns up in your life, you will start to wonder if this friendship can evolve into something deeper, something stronger, something more than your regular relationships. If the feelings are mutual and are correctly executed, a beautiful relationship commences.
But what if those event’s don’t unfold ideally. If one side is not ready for a relationship, or if the feelings are not mutual, it could turn out to be quite an awkward situation. And if this really does happen, what can one do?
One thing can probably be said that anyone in this situation can agree with: it’s hard. It’s hard when you have to pretend you’re not in love with them. It’s hard when friends around you may all agree you’re perfect for one another and that “you guys should just get together” when you know it’s nearly impossible. It’s hard when you dream about when you can finally hold their hand and walk around publicly showing off your wonderful partner but realize that it’s merely just a dream.
Their face haunts your memories, their smile is etched in your brain and their weird habits constantly replay through your mind.